To help you find yourself :
a) Think of someone you love or like very much.
b) Write down all the viewpoints you have accumulated about them.
c) Now look in the mirror and say those viewpoints to yourself.
d) As you do c), try to differentiate which viewpoints are truly yours and which are not.
It should be mentioned that reactive viewpoints can be confusing, so keep in mind you are not inherently reactive, even though it may seem that way at times.
e) As you go through that highly personal process of differentiating between your own and others’ viewpoints, a clarity can begin to form that will help you discover where your own viewpoints come from, and thus, yourself.
Don’t be surprised if your own willingness to persist is tested beyond your comfort zone, but it’s nice to know it is possible to discover yourself, and, in your own unique way.